FROM FASHION AVE TO MOTHERHOOD + BACK AGAIN. 3 FRIENDS WITH 3 DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVES ON FASHION, BEAUTY AND LIFE.... AND UNLIKE OUR CHILDREN WE LOVE TO SHARE..
We love doing movie nights here, and with summer coming to a close, why not end it with a Back to School Movie Night, Haute Mama style. Films have always played a big role in fashion, yet has anyone ever realized how fashionable, school centered movies really are? Some of the best of the best, when planning your BTS movie night, haute mama style:
-Clueless. You're totally clueless if you can't see the fashion connection here. Like totally for real.....
-Ferris Buellers Day Off. Ok, not really school centered. Andddd...Sloan wore one outfit the entire movie, but OMG.. the fringe jacket with the shorts...the white boots....That was the 80's people. In a nutshell. White boots and fringe.
Note the shoulderpads..Ferris messes up once, and she'll tackle him like an NFL linebacker. And not feel a thing.
-Grease. What girl (and heck, some guys) doesn't want at least one Sandy moment in her life? Taps love interest on the back, only to have him swing around and BAM! Girlfriend's rockin' the look..no need to explain the look to all you mamas out there. Danny Zucko shaped right up, right there. And not once did he step out of line again.
-Love Story. You want to know what love means? It means timeless style, effortless good looks and 40 years later, they still look this good. There's a LOT to be learned here fashion wise..
Kimberly here and I came out of the closet sort of speak on the fact that I am a divorcee. I wanted this.. this current state my life is in. I am happy with myself, I have found my authentic self, I am growing stronger everyday but it sure has been a journey and will continue until the day I die. I remember sitting in my therapists office and she said to me... look at you, when you first came in to me you were crying hysterical you were dressed in dark clothing, you were a mess. Look at you now, you are wearing orange and you are radiant. What does that mean when you are about to up root your family and change life's direction. It means I was making the right choice. I made it to get me back! I was so lost!
Can you possibly be happy living a role? No! Boy do I wish someone taught me that lesson years ago. You need to live 1000 percent who you truly are in the roles life puts you in! Don't lose a centimeter of what makes your soul happy! That is the lesson I have learned and it took me a while even through this devastating time in my life. It has been hard being judged and talked about. Why am I still smiling, well, no one in this world I don't care who you are has not had a moment where they make a wrong choice, do something that is not the norm, lied, and I truly believe unless you are truly evil (Charles Manson), the reason you are brought to that moment is because you're not sure what you want or need. Something is missing, happy, content, focused people don't usually end up in those situations.
Many married couples have this problem. I remember the marriage counselor ( yes another therapist) say... Couples either grow together or they grow apart. I think that from day one you need to acknowledge what is that one thing that will tie you together and (it can't be children) because what do you do as a couple when they have their own lives one day! It has to be something intimate between the two of you. I never had that in my marriage. I didn't know I needed it, 2010, I just figured that out.
Which brings me to my next problem, moving on. I love to be in love, ( who doesn't) I love to make someone happy, I am a hopeless romantic and now that I know who I am and I will never lose her again...... I should be ready. Oh I am so not there! I am not sure if it is because I want to protect my children. Right now it is still me and their dad in their life. Very simple for them and I like that. There WILL NOT be a revolving door of boyfriends that my kids will be subjected to. NO WAY!!! So now what? I fear I will miss the right guy, I fear I have already missed him :-(
I wish I could take off to exotic world destinations. Oh the novel I could write if that were the case. Just me and the world! But when you have four little lives, how do you navigate? I only want one chapter.... "the break up" to be the worst one they read one day.
This divorce has so many layers, now onto the financial control. I have four children and I have been a stay at home mom for 10 plus years. In this economy with my last bit of education ending in the 90's what do I do. Until I make it big on my own I need to rely on his support to raise the kids. It is all about the kids. When you decided to leave a marriage their is usually a very little severance package for you, their lawyer will lie and become a best selling novelist and you become the villian. So I started my art business, I started a blog with friends and I am ( thanks to a childhood friend) given an opportunity to start as a sales rep. for their company commission based. Well, its a start but will take time to build up any real revenue all the while being a mom to four children, school activities, after school activities, meals, doctors appt., clothing, supplies, baths, etc. etc. time is very limited. I hear repeatedly... " You wanted this!" I feel sometimes like I am in the ocean and my ex is standing on the boat holding the life jacket saying.... " you wanted to jump in! this is your fate now!!!" It gets you so mad at times you would rather drown than be saved.
But then these words flash in my head.... my children (enough said), eating (I'm italian remember) shopping(I would miss the new trends half joking here!!) love ( one day I hope to have that feeling again) Pray ( It has kept me on this earth so far). I am excited to see the movie... Eat. Pray, Love. I know why she did what she did, she had too! Maybe I won't feel so alone and I certainly will be excited to see her find happiness and It may restore my faith in fate! at least for a few hours!
Goop. Not that ick that makes the hairspray pump stop pumping.
Goop: a really fun newletter by actress and uber haute mama Gwyneth Paltrow that encompasses, well, almost everything. Food, travel, fashion, you name it. Hmm..kind of like a blog I know........ Anyhow, it's free and I can't believe how many friends of mine hadn't heard about it. It's sent out about once a month, and it's a short, easy read. She has impeccable taste in clothing, if not outrageously expensive but I always use it as a basis for my TJ Maxx runs, easy enough to duplicate. She even made me want to visit Nashville. I wonder if Faith Hill and Tim McGraw would host me too? My only complaint is that she tends to lean towards the healthy side of cooking. Vegetarian, brown rice and no sugar? thinking to myself..Could that be the reason she's at least half my size and has the skin of an angel??
That being said, she won me at Baja Style Shrimp Tacos. Now that's health food. Gwyneth Paltrow, I don't care if you ever make another movie, but the tacos..the tacos must go on.
ps random fact: Gwyneth was the name I had picked out for daughter number 2. Hubs shot me down.
Yes, I am still in a daze from last nights fashion extravaganza on-screen at the Sex and the City 2 premiere. I remember years ago, visiting Patricia Fields eponymous stores in NYC and being shocked by all going on. The colors, the clothes, the employees..for a girl from a small town in Massachusetts, it was all I could to do to keep my mouth up and off the floor.
Holy guacamole, what.. what.. what..I thought to myself.
There are no words. Visit it for yourself.
Flash forward to last night and movie stylist Ms. Fields has once again made it nearly impossible to keep my Mac glossed mouth up and off the floor.
Holy guacamole. What..what.. what...
Except this time I was joined by an audience of (predominantly) women who gasped and ooh-ed and ahhed at every outfit, shoe, and bag with me.
Un. Real.
Spend this Memorial Day weekend with Carrie, Miranda, Samantha and Charlotte. If for no other reason than to spend two plus hours dreaming of this being appropriate car pool attire.....
After running around juggling kids, homework done, dinner, dressed for little league and getting them handed off to babysitters. Kate and I with about 20 minutes to spare got ourselves glamed up for the Premier of Sex and The City 2 at the Lowes theater in Boston.
7:00 sharp the lights went out and the words Sex and The City lit up the big screen!!! I was so excited!! I couldn't wait to spend time with the girls from Manhattan! There will be no scene spoilers here so I can't get into too much detail but I can tell you I was happy to see them. All of them right off the bat all at once!!! Kate and I were in heaven!!
As always the Fashion's were out of this world!! My head was spinning but with this movie I found myself more involved in their personal struggles and what the outcome was going to be. I laughed out loud many times.... ( The Samantha we love is back) and to me stole the show!!! I cried as a few moments I felt myself in their shoes. As they struggled with who they were becoming as women as they enter new stages of their lives and as they question if they are where they are meant to be. As I left the movie Kate and I were talking and we both agreed something was missing. Then it came to us. It was the City. Most of the movie was shot as the girls were on vacation and well being a Boston girl I am going to clear my throat and type this but.... We really missed Manhattan!!
In our book however it is official!! We love those women!! Everything about them!! Samantha said that they were each other's soulmates! and I once read that.... you know you are with your soulmate when life comes to life!! These girls make it happen in high fashion they make life come to life on the big screen!!
Enjoy the movie Haute Mamas!! We think it is HAUTE!!!!!!
Now normally I'm not a bragger. Honestly aside from my gorgeous children, I've still got baby weight 8 years later, botox is calling and honestly if you saw my manicure (or lack of), well there ain't much to write home about. However ladies thanks to styleboston....
Not too much longer before our beloved Carrie Bradshaw and her fabulously fashionable and witty girlfriends light up the silver screen!! The movie Sex and The City 2 is coming out May 27th!! I remember how excited I was to get in front of my television and watch the show. I was always so disappointed that it was only a half an hour long! They always left me wanting more!! Other than the fashions the best part of the show for me was the dialogue and how candid they were about their feelings no matter what the subject or what response they would get. For Example.....
Charlotte says: You're engaged!
Carrie says: I threw up. I saw the ring and I threw up. That can't be normal.
Samantha says: That's my reaction to marriage.
They love each other and they love being women!! It is very rare that you can totally expose yourself to someone and at the end of it whether they agree with you or not they are right there beside you no judgement. We watched as they met for breakfast in their designer clothes and re-capped on what was happening in their lives together and I absorbed every minute of it!!!
We as women go through so many different phases in our lives. The best part for many of us is that we have our close girlfriends to help us through the transformations. Life changes at lightening speed, and we are always adapting to it, but it is with our girlfriends that we can talk about it, cry about it, laugh about it etc. etc. and then go shopping, split a dessert or toast with Cosmo's in our most fashionable garb of course!!!
This weekend I am off to Nantucket Island with three of my favorite Girls!! They have no idea how much I need them, they make me laugh, they make me feel good about myself, they give me peace! I feel that Sex and The City has inspired a Girlfriend Revolution and if you haven't enlisted yet... you must!!
And here is a fun site to check out with picture's of the girls of Sex and The City ..Instyle.
So put on your most fabulous outfit, pour some Cosmo's and grab your favorite girls to make it a girl's night, go see Sex and The City 2!!! Then tag us your photo's on Facebook we would love to share them with you!!
Carrie : It would be childish of us to deny that our lives weren't changing. But for this night, none of us were going anywhere. That's the thing about really good friends and a really great Manhattan.
